Monday, April 28, 2008

Just a little tid-bit :]

I've seen on other blogs how people just simply talk about their life, or things that make them smile, just simple things like that. So i thought to myself "MY TURN!" For starters, do you ever actually think and analyze how much your life would change if you could go back in time and simply change one thing? Just one thing? I know i do all the time. I always wonder what would have happened if I would have gone to this one dance or if I would have said that one thing before it was to late. Do you know what I mean? If I could go back to last semester, English class, i would have changed one simple question i asked. We were beginning to read this story, Animal Farm, and its kind of mocking the Russian democracy many years ago. Well their were all these rules that the animals had to follow on who they could talk to and what they could do. Well one rule stated that they were ordered to never speak to or associate with anything that stands on 2 legs. Which left me thinking, "What about fish?" When I raised my hand to ask my teacher, the question came out all wrong. Instead of saying "What about a fish?" I said "What's a fish?" From that moment on she never let me forget it. To this day she bugs me about it even though I'm not in her class anymore she tells all of her classes about me when they start reading the book. Now that I look back it was funny but not at the moment. I constantly think "What would have happened if I would have thought about what I was going to say before i said it? What if?" Point is, sometimes you only have one chance to do really good or screw it up...no pressure :] I've learned that sometimes its the mistakes that you make that make people like you, its not always about what your good at or how good at something you are. This brings up another subject. Friends. Their the ones you can act like a total and complete idiot around and you know they wont laugh AT you but their going to laugh WITH you. My friends have always been my second family. The older i get the more friends i make...but sometimes i lose friends. Friends are there when you need them, best friends are ALWAYS there even when your being a complete idiot and they don't get embarrassed. The people who are in your past are there for a reason they remain in the past because that's where they belong. The people who are with you now are the people your suppose to be with and those that have been there all along, will always be there. People always have there places for you in their life's and you'll always have places for people in yours. My point is, people come and go and some decide to stay, those that stay are the ones that matter the most.

3 comments:

3rdshoe said...

True! I look back and wonder about if I had done or said this or that different how it would have changed my life...the true constants are family, the Gospel and of course our Heavenly Father and our Savior. Isn't it scary to think of what life would be like if things were different...what if my great-grandmother never joined the church, or what if my dad wasn't worthy to marry my mother in the temple...

Friends are wonderful, too. I'm still in contact with a couple of my friends from high-school. They are still my friends nine years after graduation...wow that made me feel old!!! The most important thing about friends is to choose the ones who will help you grow! I definitely had friends of both sort...I'm still friends with those that uplifted me. Sorry I decided to write a novel on your comment page...yawn...if you kept reading this you are amazing!

Andrea said...

What a great blog. You really are an amazing writer and I love the part where you said, "The people who are in your past are there for a reason they remain in the past because that's where they belong." I think that is so true. I like being able to see the deep thinking side of Chelsea too!
I agree with Liberty the biggest thing is making sure you pick the right friends. It makes the world of difference!

Anonymous said...

Seven friends nobody needs...

All friends are not created equal. Most buddies add to your life, but there are probably a few you would be better off without. The common denominator for these friends-gone-bad is that they act as if it's all about them and never about you. We're all guilty of being a little self-absorbed at times, but friendship is supposed to be a two-way street. If one of your friends isn't holding up her end of the bargain, consider calling her on her bad behavior — or slashing her from your buddy list. (One word of caution: Before you start friend-cleaning, ask yourself if you fit any of these descriptions. You don't want one of your pals reading this and deciding to dump you!)
1. The whiner. Nobody knows the troubles she's seen. Things most of us accept as part of daily life — carpool snafus, demanding bosses, men with poor communication skills — she treats as evidence that the world is against her. We all enjoy complaining occasionally, but with her it's a nonstop moan-fest. Susan, 30, a public relations executive, refers to one of her friends as "the Crisis Queen." "It's always a catastrophe. It's draining just to have to hear it," she says.

2. The leech. She treats her friends like servants who exist to feed her dog, cover her shift at work, pick up her dry cleaning or peel her another grape. "She'll start off asking what I'm up to, but she really just wants to find out if I'm free to help her out," says Ellen, 39, a stay-at-home mom, about the leech in her life. "She recently called to ask what my daughter was doing. I said nothing, thinking she was going to invite her over. Instead, she asked if her daughter could come to my house!"

3. The busy bee. She's the PTA president, a party organizer and a domestic goddess all rolled into one. She makes you feel as if you are but a mere blip on her overscheduled radar screen. She consistently shows up late or says she's too busy to take your calls. "Since my friend got a new job, all she talks about is her crazy schedule," says Leslie, 26, an environmental consultant. "She makes it seem as if she's doing me a big favor by making time for me!"

4. The yakker. Thank Heavens for caller ID. Everybody has friends that like to talk (if any of my pals are reading this, please know I've got that muzzle on order), but this buddy never lets you get a word in edgewise. In fact, she missed her calling as a telemarketer or a carnival barker. "I could hand the phone to one of the kids for five minutes and she wouldn't notice," says Kristi, age 42, a personal coach, of her personal Chatty Cathy. "Next time she calls, I'm going to have the country song 'I Wanna Talk About Me' playing in the background and see if she gets the hint."

5. The adviser. We all count on our friends for advice, but nobody needs a steady stream of unsolicited intervention. Whether this pal is trying to prove how smart she is or start her own counseling practice, she's got the answer for everything — whether you ask her or not. Jodie, 32, a part-time nurse and mother of two, says she quit sharing things with one of her friends because, "She can't just listen; she always has to tell me what to do. She reminds me of the mother-in-law from hades!"

6. The dumper. Whenever something better comes up, she drops you like yesterday's business. The worst kind of dumper is the one that treats her female friends like fill-ins or time-passers until a guy comes into the picture. Jennifer, 24, a law student, says of one boy-crazy friend: "You'd think she was still in high school. We'll make plans weeks in advance, but if her boyfriend calls and asks her to hang out, she rushes over."

7. The bragger. She's been there and done that — way better than you have. She just can't resist telling you how many carats her diamonds are or how much better her office is. She lets you know that your discount designer duds are so last season, while her outfits came straight from the Paris runway. "My conversations with this one friend consists of how important she is at work, what she's done to her house and how perfect her marriage is," says Julie, 31, a human resources administrator. "Doesn't she know it's supposed to be a friendship, not a competition?"